We all want to fit in

Sarah Kristine:

If A Girl was a campaign in 2015 by SAFIGI Outreach Foundation Ltd, a not for profit organization based in Zambia with a vision to raise a generation where girls are empowered, equipped and fulfilled in every aspect of their life, for the development of the entire world. To know more about SAFIGI’s goals and activities, visit: http://www.safetyfirstforgirls.org

We all want to fit in. It’s a human thing. Society tells us something is wrong with us if we can’t fit in so when we fail to be part of a group, we start to believe that there is something wrong with us.

I am here to tell you this, whether you fit on or not, there is nothing wrong with you. Humans are diverse, with different characters and failure to fit in just means you may not have found the people who share the same values as you and that is okay.


So how do you cope when you can’t fit in? Firstly, don’t feel sorry for yourself. You are not a sad story and even if no one wants to hang out with you, it doesn’t mean you have to make your own company miserable. Secondly, find interesting things you can do on your own so that you can occupy your time with something useful; read a book or practice a hobby.

Don’t be afraid to make a first move. If you are in a new place, don’t be shy to say hello first. Of course there will always be people who are not friendly, but chance is that there will be someone ready to show you around.

Also, use social network to find people who share your interests but always be careful about sharing private information with strangers. Follow your gut and make your move only if it is wise and potentially safe. Safety first.

If the reason you don’t fit in is because you feel everyone is lower than you or not deserving of your company, then you are actually depriving yourself of a learning experience. Every person has a story and looking down on others shows that you need to improve your own character first before hanging out with other people.

I know you will find your place in the world one day. Be safe.

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