Mwaka Mwandwe :
“I am called fat and dull because of my tribe. I would go home and wish I was not fat or my tribe”
‘Everything has beauty but not everyone sees it,’ one of the simplest statements uttered by Confucius. The world has people from diverse backgrounds and experiences and so our perceptions differ.
Don’t get me wrong, I am nobody or tribal shaming advocate (never support or encourage this behavior), but I realize some people are not sensitive enough to keep negative statements about others to themselves.
Being different from others can go several ways:
1. Your uniqueness is appreciated,
2. Your uniqueness is rejected because it is not encompassed in what people assume to be normal,
3. Your uniqueness is viewed as a threat to people remaining relevant and significant which is premised under the primitive ‘survival of the fittest instinct,’
4. Your uniqueness is criticized because others can’t possibly imagine you being happy
5. Your uniqueness creates a diversity that encompasses other minorities and crashes often ignorant stereotypes held.
There are people who will say white people are racists, some are but not the whole group just like every other race out there. Some people will say Black people are criminals, some are but not the whole group just like every other race out there.
The key really lies in you knowing who you are… .why does being called fat bother you? Do you think it’s true? If it is, are you comfortable with being that weight, if you are then whatever a person says about your weight is really insignificant? If it saddens you, change it!
The truth is even when you are skinny, someone out there will have something to say because what comes out of peoples mouths is often a product of the lives they have led, it should not bother you if you establish what it means to be you, WHO ARE YOU? WHAT DO YOU WANT? WHAT DOES IT MEAN FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY? WHAT IS YOUR DEFINITION OF HAPPINESS?
The saddest thing a human being can do is get explanations and validation to those answers from other people because you will fail, one person will say be fat, the other be skinny and in the end, you will be a pile of confusion lacking self-confidence and self-esteem that will retard your development.
We can not teach everyone around us to find beauty in who we are or the things we find amazing. We can change who we are but the whole world will not rally with us, our job is to use our abilities and potential to the fullest. To be assertive and know what it means to be us. . . find beauty in ourselves without the need for others to see it.
Post Courtesy: SAFIGI; our contributing partner.
Mwaka C. Mwandwe holds a BA in Psychology and History from the University of Zambia. She has been passionate about public health since she was 18 years old with key interest toward Adolescents and inclined to behavioral change and social justice. Her work experience, mainly in the NGO sector, have been bordered on Sexual Reproductive Health, life skills, human rights and the promotion of Gender Equality. She loves to read varieties of books, watch movies and subtitled series. Her favorite pet is a cat and if she had the chance, she would declare a world junk food day so she can proudly store chocolate for it. She has been Volunteer Manager for SAFIGI since 2016.
SAFIGI Outreach Foundation Ltd is a not for profit organization based in Zambia with a vision to raise a generation where girls are empowered, equipped and fulfilled in every aspect of their life, for the development of the entire world. To know more about SAFIGI’s goals and activities, visit http://www.safetyfirstforgirls.org